Why we need problems to be successful

Kashish Sodhi
6 min readSep 11, 2020

In these unprecedented times, each one of us is surrounded by problems. Even if you look back in time, you will realize that you have come so far after facing a lot of those problems or challenges. But could you recall, how did you overcome those?

Problems/obstacles/challenges are part and parcel of a lifetime. But this is all bullshit, right? Well, be ready to go mad at me as my answer to this is NO.

In life, we often forget what is meant to happen and why is it meant to happen. We are so much surrounded by the negativity that we find help from the outside. Or what we do, which I have observed recently, is that we start judging other people when they try to help us.

The people around are becoming more generous after a growing number of cases through mental stress/disorder. But what are we doing instead? We are getting irritated and frustrated with it. Why?

The simple answer to this is — “I am suffering so much. You will never understand what I am going through”

OR

“It is easy to say than to live with such circumstances.”

My straight point here would be that why is it so easy for us to judge the person in front of us. How the hell we know he/she hasn’t suffered any problems. Or how can we assume that he hasn’t been through a similar one?

I truly understand as a human being that every problem in our life brings immense difficulties and sadness and trouble. Every incident might bring a new problem/challenge in front of us. But still, that doesn’t authorize you to judge others or comment on the help being offered to you.

I personally have seen cases where people have ruined years of friendships, relationships, and blood relations. Why did this happen?

Just because of the mentality that the person offering us help or positivity hasn’t been through the same problem. How easy is it for us to comment upon that.

My only thought here would be to understand that if someone is so kind to offer you some good vibes and push you to feel good about yourself and fight in the current circumstance, never ever let that person go. Never let this person feel bad about himself. Because he might stop giving healthy advice to others and might even stop getting into conversations.

Now, on a lot of personal requests and messages, I feel that it is very important for all my readers to understand how one can tackle a problem. Also, it is more important to understand why any problem is occurring.

In a lifetime, you are given certain challenges to shape yourself. These challenges define the future of you. But a common man doesn’t understand the purpose behind these challenges.

Each kind of a problem, be it relationship-related or financial troubles or career-related or health-related, is due to a reason. You need to understand the root cause behind each of these problems occurring in your life.

These are natural lessons presented in front of you in a way that you learn a lot about life as well as learn new skills necessary for you to live a good life.

Let me explain this with a quick example to you.

One of my friends had to face several challenges at the same time frame. He was in standard 12 and was preparing for JEE and board examination.

His father fell ill and his brother was very young. Also, he was then struggling with a fresh break up with his girlfriend.

Now imagine, we are well grown-ups and he at the age of 16–17, had to manage a heart-break, his crucial exams, a household, and finances.

Heart-break might sound a bit childish to you, but it does pain.

Anyways, I clearly remember being connected to him throughout that time. How he used to call me up at night (around 11 pm) and cry his heart out. He was forced to start tuition for class V-VIII (so that he can manage some expenses). The rest of the expenses were sent by some of the relatives living in different parts of India.

But imagine for a minute, how tough life was for him — no mother, and such difficulties.

I used to read him some famous quotes to push him and motivate him during those tough times. I used to give him lectures via phone and WhatsApp. The most amazing part about his life which I love the most was his courage.

I learned from it. This is the sole reason why I still push everyone who comes to me with a problem in their life. I am quite young to counsel everyone. But I try my best to make them feel happy about their life. I help them find their true happiness.

We all need to understand that it is very important for each one of us to find the right purpose and the path to absolute happiness.

My friend secured more marks than me in his boards, got a seat in one of the prestigious colleges in India and his father was back on his feet to run the household. I still remember his father’s eyes full of tears when he saw the change in his son.

And my friend texted me saying that all of these situations made him realize how to find a path towards happiness. Also, all these problems helped him find the true meaning of his life.

We all need to understand that our lifestyles are different. These problems arrive to bring the required change in our lives.

We complain that we have financial problems or we have less money. Always remember, having less money or financial problems is a gift. This situation helps one in deciding what is essential and what is not. In life, what matters and what doesn’t.

Having career challenges in life is an opportunity for you to make the move which you have been thinking of lately. This is to bring you out of your comfort zone.

Failures make a man an inch closer to success every-time. Always remember — if you are trying, you are far ahead of the crowd. (as many don’t even bother to try)

Personal problems such as being criticized or under-performing or relationship problems are life teaching problems that incur. They are bound to change the perspective about how you live a life and how you are with others.

Also, at times we think that our lives have no meaning left. Well, my suggestion would be to speak to people who want to be in your position. Again, this will change your perspective.

And then, if you feel really stuck and no help offered to you is working — seek help from professionals. Before taking a step in a negative direction, think of taking professional help so that you are not the next victim of suicide.

These problems which I mentioned are a few ones. Don’t think them to be exhaustive. In this pandemic, many have had suicidal thoughts and have been suffering through mental stress.

We need to understand that no time is permanent. Utilize this time (even though it is a bit longer now) to focus on what you should improve in your life. Work on your weaknesses and strengthen your strengths.

Problems define you. They make the best out of you.

But never, in life, dis-appreciate others when they extend their hands to you. Never take them from granted as your body language and tone and behavior might ask them to stop this giving practice.

Understand life’s deeper aspects and act upon these challenges wisely. Every challenge is an opportunity for you to become better and make this world a better place.

Sadly, we don’t understand much and complain more.

My humble request guys — give meaning to your life by not taking a burden of these challenges on your shoulder or giving excuses. Rather, take them as opportunities because success can never be owned. You’ve to be through thick and thin to reach the desired position.

I read an article on the same where this successful person mentioned — success is rented, and the rent is due every day. I couldn’t agree more.

Peace! Cheers! Be Safe!

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