Embracing your abilities for a brighter you!

You are your greatest asset in life.

Have you been misplaced in your own thoughts where you have no clue about the present? Have you ever pushed hard to figure out the disarray around?

I have tried it.

Honestly, I have done this.

Over the course of the last twelve months, I have done this a lot.

I happened to speak to a few people in my network and I discovered that this is a persistent concern with most.

In spiritualism and psychology, there is a term called self-realization. It is often said that self-realization can help in achieving the full potential of one’s abilities.

Life is miserable.

Nothing seems immaculate. And people get mislaid easily, with no sense of what should be done.

Most importantly, one is caught between fulfilling the needs of others and satisfying his own.

Everyone wants to get into tier-1 colleges, get good grades, top-notch placements, promotions, and whatnot. The needs have no cessation.

Many self-help books will guide you to be organized, wake up early, have goals and milestones in your life. But what if you are standing at the dead-end?

What if you don’t know which road to take?

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The mess inside your head, I feel, can be cleared or sorted with the help of this concept of self-realization.

A person can feel depressed, less concentrated, have less sleep, increased anxiety, and low self-esteem if there is no self-realization.

My trust in this concept is that you should be mindful of yourself. You should have an understanding of your body, heart and mind.

With this more profound connection with yourself, nothing in life can be hard to reach. Relationships, jobs, and other materialistic stuff, there is everything that you can earn.

And to come to this point, I know every expert would say, is formidable. But it doesn’t have to be. You don’t have to be a monk. You don’t have to leave your existing life and be a sadhu.

Understand this — if you have limited knowledge about yourself — your thoughts, emotions, etc. — you will always find yourself questioning things. How did this happen? Why did this happen? What? When? Ugh!

The ultimate idea is to explore yourself to the supreme limit. If you don’t know about yourself, life will never appear easy to you. Ultimately, happiness will always be a pale facet of your life.

I practice Nichiren Buddhism and trust me I have treasured the process of my human revolution. The practice enabled me to find my inner capabilities — I was a very reticent person and very shy to talk about my feelings. Today, I am able to express myself in public comfortably and talk about my emotions — both negative and positive. And apparently, there are many aspects that transformed because of the practice.

I am a firm believer in what you are doing currently, you should be enjoying/loving it. This involves coming to the point of self-realization.

If you don’t understand what you are capable of – you will never enjoy the work you are doing.

I completed my engineering and I feel blessed that I got the opportunity to explore my inner self — discover my capabilities. I learned that coding, building software, or any part of the tech development part was a big no for me. I had this knack for the business and consulting world. Even before I sat for my placements, I took a decision to look for possibilities in the business research and consulting world.

The road was evidently challenging to land up in my dream organization and there is still a long way to go — but the reason for my happiness is that I took out time for myself and paved my way for what I would enjoy doing.

We are living in a digital era. We are surrounded by technology and our lifestyles are very much dependent on high screen times. It is one of the main causes why we get distracted so effortlessly. People who don’t even matter in our lives, manage to upset us.

When you are not in the right phase, that’s where the negativity grows around and you feel paralyzed. Everything starts worrying you.

The usual self-doubts, questioning begin to kick in. Here comes the point of learning– these perturbations have a greater impact on your body, mind and heart.

The challenge lies in pursuing the correct path to achieve self-realization.

Today, I see many influencers on social media, especially in the fashion domain. Many people look up to them — to the extent that they watch the videos of what a usual day in their lives looks like.

And many out there, are so much impacted by those elements of these influencers, which shouldn’t even matter. There are concerns over body sizes, skin colour, hair, clothes, materialistic stuff and whatnot.

I, on the other hand, tend to look at their struggles. What made them take this road, or how were they able to accomplish this — because that’s the inspiration, right?

People have left big MNCs to start their own businesses or invest in creative domains. How was this achievable? Because they gained self-realization (maybe not complete, but they did).

It is never too late to improvise or bring changes.

One more example that I can share is that one of my friends had a quick temper and it lead to a lot of damage in her relationships. Her anger management skills were very skimpy.

Upon sharing my beliefs from the book “The Power of your Subconscious Mind” and even offering her to read the book — she was determined to get control over her subconscious reactions. And after a couple of months, I could see the change in her.

She had authority over her emotions since she became conscious.

It is simple to comprehend yet complicated to preach — emotions are not you, but if you are not conscious about them, they can overpower and hurt.

Doing yoga or exercising is one of the best ways to connect with your body. Meditation is considered to be one of the most significant ways to connect with your inner self.

A 20 to 30 minute morning/evening meditation can help you disconnect from the world’s imperfections.

You will have a different perception of these flaws. My personal experiences have made me understand the power of having a more profound connection within.

You have much more control over your emotions. You have the capability to see your own mistakes.

You are different. You are good. You just need to identify your abilities and capitalise on them. Don’t compare yourself to others. The only comparison of you is you.

When you begin to respect your abilities and embrace them – trust me you manage to create a beautiful path for yourself.

Having self-realization can boost your self-esteem, bring in the right confidence, and bring more focus to your life.

The path to success will be defined through your own choices.

Success should not be proportionate to the money you make or the assets you have. You are the greatest asset of your life. Invest in yourself the right way. Success would be a happy you.

And as I said, the concept is a tough one to incorporate. Give it time. Give yourself time. Don’t rush, let the positivity sink in.

Leaving you with a short story about the man and his horse. You can comment and tell me what do you think the moral of this story is.

A monk slowly walks along a road when he hears the sound of a galloping horse. He turns around to see a man riding a horse moving in his direction. When the man reaches closer, the monk asks, “Where are you going?”. To which the man replies, “I don’t know, ask the horse” and rides away.



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